Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

This quote, "Comparison is the thief of joy," by Theodore Roosevelt is so true! I never heard it until I started my Mompreneur gig a few years ago and wish I would have known about it when my kids were little because we moms are so good at comparing ourselves to other moms and thinking we suck.

Why oh why do we do it? I have no idea. Here's what I do know. When my kids were little, I thought
pretty much everyone else in the mom world had their sh$t together except for me. Reading it now is just laughable because there's no way that everyone else in the world knew what they were doing and that I was singled out. But that's how I felt. My kid melted down and I screamed back - only mom ever to do that. My kid didn't want what I cooked for dinner so I just gave in and served crap - certainly the only mom to have ever done that. My kid was crying and could not get it together so I turned on a show - definitely the only mom ever on the planet who ever thought of such a thing.

I'm laughing out loud as I write this now, but I truly felt awful about myself many days when the kids were little. And social media was just in its infancy way back then. I'm sure it's so much harder now because of the highlight reel that most of us see. So I'm here to tell you that if you're ever having a bad day and playing the comparison game, shoot me a message. Because I bet I can top you!

And think about this. When we look at a garden, we don't single out individual flowers and think about which one is prettier and why. We look at all of them and think how lovely they are in their own uniqueness. So next time you feel the need to compare yourself to another woman who you think is momming better than you, remember that we all have good days and bad days and that your child thinks that you are the best mom in the whole entire world. At least most of the time.😂

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